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Years ago I let a parasite into my life. I didn't even realize I had done it until it was too late. In a drunken and horny moment I made a mistake. Then the next morning when things should have gotten back to normal I began to see my grave error. His name is Matthias and I took his virginity. He then pestered me unendingly in needing constant attention and because I had taken his precious virginity I felt guilty and put up with his inappropriate behavior. He turned a great deal of my vacation to Germany into a couples therapy session... and as far as I was concerned we were not a couple, not dating, we just had a drunken screw.

A year and a half or so later he asked me if he could come visit San Francisco and if he could stay at my place to save money. I'm always happy to put up a friend for a few days so I agreed. He then TOLD me he would be staying for three weeks and would have a friend in tow. I was a bit upset by this. The friend turned out to be someone he had never met and had been putting on a nice face for through the internet. Upon meeting and experiencing the real Matthias he headed for the nearest hotel. His behavior on his trip was horrid. He kicked my roommates cat and spent way to long in the one and only bathroom for five roommates during the morning rush hours causing many people to arrive to work late. That all still pisses me off. He even complained when I told him to sleep in the living room so Tom and I could celebrate our one year anniversary.

I eventually had too much and stopped all correspondence. He sent many accusing emails which I read and did not respond to. the last email I had received from him informed me of a German saying which translated to : "No answer is an answer as well." I felt holding strong and keeping to my answer of silence sent a much more truthful message that I could with words.

The last time I had even the slightest interaction with him was New Years Eve of 2002-2003 and I only spoke in grunts to him. He left in disgust I hadn't heard from him since... until today. He sent me a friend request through Facebook and I accepted. Hopefully he has grown up.... or else I'm going to have to learn how to unfriend someone on Facebook.


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Oct. 15th, 2009 09:17 pm (UTC)
Oh great - now he'll be sending you Margaritas and farm animals.

(To remove a FB friend, just go to your friends list (All Friends) and hit the little X next to the ones you want to axe. I recently deleted most of my highs chool class.)
Oct. 15th, 2009 11:46 pm (UTC)
I just learned today how to hide farm-mafia crap. Althought I still have over a hundred request for birthday/cause support/karma/greenpatch crap. I just don't understand why I would want to allow these pointless apps access to my information.

Thanks for the info on removing a friend. I've heard that when you do it, they people you axe have no idea.
Oct. 16th, 2009 02:05 am (UTC)
I make a game out of blocking apps. I'm up to more than 60 of them now.
Oct. 16th, 2009 02:03 pm (UTC)
Sending farm animals. hahaha!
That really is annoying!!!
Oct. 15th, 2009 11:17 pm (UTC)
I would be a bit creeped out that you are his only Facebook friend!

Not to go back to the original story too much, but how in the world could you have possibly taken his virginity? I find that very hard to believe.
Oct. 15th, 2009 11:42 pm (UTC)
I noticed that I'm his only friend when I accepted and was sending him a message. I'm hoping that it's because he just joined and that he didn't just join to stalk me. I was shocked when I found out he had been a virgin. You don't expect someone as old as he was to be a virgin. When the 40 year old virgin came out I was scared to see it, too close to home. He didn't tell me until the next morning when he decided he would wear his Virgin sweatshirt and announce the irony. One of my freinds who I meet him through corroborated his story and if you met him the way he was you would understand. It's only that I met him after I had already had many lime tree caipirinha drinks. It's really interesting how much he has changed in looks, hears hoping he has changed as much in personal growth.
Oct. 15th, 2009 11:51 pm (UTC)
To give him the benefit of the doubt, Facebook isn't really all that popular in Germany. There is a German site that is really big there, even though there is a translated version of Facebook.

I was wondering if he looked like that back then. He actually looks kind of scary to me. :)

Although, I can believe he was still a virgin. It just seems so hard to believe. Especially, when you are gay. Let's face it, it's not that hard to get laid if you really want to.
Oct. 16th, 2009 12:32 am (UTC)
That's good drama.
Oct. 16th, 2009 02:01 am (UTC)
You have a good heart and it seems you try to see that silver lining in everyone. Just do take care of yourself!
Oct. 16th, 2009 02:02 pm (UTC)
Ugh, good luck with that. I say defriend him now! But then, I'm a bitch...
Oct. 16th, 2009 08:33 pm (UTC)
Oh lord. What have you done? You've opened pandora's box. Eeekk

Oct. 20th, 2009 03:10 am (UTC)
i miss your stories. this post (and the last one) reminded me why i used to check livejournal obsessively to see who had updated.

i might be going on a roadtrip down the west coast with my friend kely in the near future. if i do i'll be expecting to stay with you... lol!
Oct. 26th, 2009 08:47 am (UTC)
Thank you!
We don't live in the Castro anymore but you are welcome to stay with us. We live at the edge of the city now and Public Tranny is really bad out here... but if I don't have a job, I can play Taxi Driver! Maybe I'll shave my head. lol.

Edited at 2009-10-26 08:48 am (UTC)
Oct. 26th, 2009 08:51 am (UTC)
Re: Thank you!
of course you said roadtrip... so public tranny isn't a worry. cool. Because seriously, the bus I would take to get downtown has been the subject on the news for the last few weeks. Two people have been attacked and the drivers didn't do anything. I'll take my car, thank you!
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