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I have food issues...

Tom likes to make fun of me because I compartmentalize my food. I don’t want my pasta mixing with the green beans and keeps the mac and cheese away from the wine sautéed chicken. I like to enjoy the flavors separately. I cringe when I see him mixing everything together in a disturbing unappetizing pile. People seem to fall into two categories the separatist and the mixers, luckily we can all coexist without much more than teasing comments at each others personality quirks.

Lately this bizarre separation has been happening with my friends completely without my involvement. I seem to be seeing all of my friends less and less. I feel so incredibly busy and like I am a horrible friend gone off to Boyfriend Landia, but I’m not even in Boyfreind Landia. I’m in the land of compartmentalized friends.

I have my friends who like to go out and drink, friends who don’t drink, friends who used to date other friends, and friends who prefer one on one and are overwhelmed in groups. When I lived in Southern California all my friends enjoyed hanging out together. If you invited one person to meet somewhere more than likely eight other friends would also join you unless you specified a preference otherwise. My SoCal life was a mixed up flavorful plate of all my friends mashed together, here in San FranDisco it’s more like our neighborhoods, completely different styles with distinct borders. I need to learn to integrate my friends or deal with the fact that I don’t have time to see everyone every week. When I go down to SoCal I normally just notify two or three people where i will be and when... when I get there I normally have at least half my friends show up. It's so much easier.

At least once I move I will have a place that's big enough to have company... I can just say, party at my place on Sunday and see who shows and if they don't mix.... oh well.

The Candy Man - Cibo Matto - Viva! La Woman

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punkbassoon
Apr. 18th, 2006 12:41 am (UTC)
Hey there, I'm pretty close to being separatist too ;)
dmoola
Apr. 18th, 2006 01:20 am (UTC)
YAY! for mixers. I can't resist mixing everything together.... you come up with new and interesting flavors that way. Eatting should be an experience and you won't get that with keeping things the same as you always have them.
bearzbub
Apr. 18th, 2006 02:05 am (UTC)
Thanks for calling it San FranDisco!
ewe_2
Apr. 18th, 2006 01:54 pm (UTC)
I think this comes with age and relationships. Your friends tend to separate into different life style changes. So it more difficult to keep in touch.

:-)

D
et_blackbird
Apr. 19th, 2006 07:44 pm (UTC)
Food should be kept separate. It's better for you that way. Some things weren't made to mix! The only reason I even mix things is if I can't stand the taste of something, so I'm trying to drown it out with the taste of something else.

Friends on the other hand... I know what you mean and how you feel. The older I've gotten, the less I've managed to keep large but viable groups of friends. People seem to get less tolerant of each other's quirks as they get older, and it just gets harder to persuade people to play nicely with the other kids.

I also found that the groups I used to hang out with in Ireland stopped hanging out together when I moved away, as if I'd been the glue that held them together. Is it like that with your SoCal crowd? Do they only get together when you're around?

At least once I move I will have a place that's big enough to have company...

I see you're finding bright sides!
traylordean
Apr. 21st, 2006 04:06 pm (UTC)
And from the depths!
I haven't talked to you in so long (or it seems). It is most likely because the compartment I'm in is far away from EVERYBODY. Have i really been here for two and a half years! And as for the food thing: I always see a little smile on your face when we are at Moshi and your Bento comes out. Every differt food in its own little compartment protected from each other by sweet bento walls. The most I ever see you eat many differt things is at Burma Star. What are you doing for your BDAY?
(Anonymous)
Apr. 21st, 2006 04:37 pm (UTC)
Re: And from the depths!
Suppenküche for sunday brunch... then who knows. Oh how I love the Bento!
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