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When I was in high school my Drama Teacher taught me something very important that I have always used to help me get along with others. She taught me how to criticize, give advice, and be critical of someone else all without making the person feel like they are under attack. Often they even thank you for your honesty. Everyday after almost every performance, we had to criticize the work on stage, if we had nothing to say, you had to think fast and come up with something. Also there was a certain way she liked us to present our opinions. You never started out with anything negative. you never ended with anything negative. Negative comments should be sandwiched between positive comments to turn criticism into advice.

In everyday life I now say something like this; "I've noticed you've been working really hard and I appreciate it. You seem to be a little bit unfocused, and have forgotten a few things recently. I would like you to work on getting things completed in a timely manner so you don't forget them. Oh by the way thanks for being so prompt in coming in early each wednesday, not everyone is doing as well as you at remembering."

My drama teaches was very wise in teaching this to us, I've used what she taught me more often than anything I learned in Algebra. they say you can catch more flies with honey rather then vinegar. I say you can get more done with advice than with criticism, who want to catch flies.

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grubbybastard
Jun. 9th, 2005 11:03 pm (UTC)
You should write fortunes for fortune cookies. : )
monkeyx3
Jun. 9th, 2005 11:12 pm (UTC)
Very good job maintaining that lead.... heh heh! Oh the grammar and spelling errors, it hurts me so.
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