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As terrible as this sounds, sometimes...

"As terrible as this sounds, sometimes..." is a sentence that should almost never be finished. You should stop and think about what you are about to say because it is going to sound terrible. If it happens to be about the person you are talking to it's even worse. Maybe you should just stop while you are ahead.

When this sentence is said to me, I tend to agree it sounds terrible, don't tell me. And if you want to say something terrible about our relationship I am going to believe whatever you say, so If you say, "As terrible as it sounds sometimes I feel..." I am going to believe you feel that way, don't get mad at me if I get pissed right back at you.

You are responsible for what comes out of your mouth, you are responsible for your own feelings, you are responsible for yourself. Make yourself your own number one priority, I can't make you mine. If I wanted a number one priority besides myself I would have a kid. I take care of myself first because it's my responsibility to take care of myself, Mine and mine alone. Anyone who wants to help look out for me is greatly appreciated but it is only my responsibility. Do not make it my responsibility to take care of you, I don't know what all of your ever changing needs are. I can never know them all.

If you need a little extra attention, ask for it. I am more than willing to give. But I am no mind reader. Playing the martyr only pisses me off by the way. Go sulk, but my pity pot is doesn't hold much for this kind of crap.
< /rant >

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romeohotel
Feb. 26th, 2005 04:24 am (UTC)
:-(

Sounds like a bad day.

*Hug*
sisyphus238
Feb. 26th, 2005 05:16 am (UTC)
< /rant > I like that
redarius
Feb. 26th, 2005 08:04 am (UTC)
i can understand that.

ya know, we still need to grab a beer next time i'm in SF. :)
monkeyx3
Mar. 2nd, 2005 07:34 am (UTC)
That sounds great. Then I could give you the CDs I made for you...
roxyshocks
Feb. 26th, 2005 10:01 am (UTC)
"As terrible as this sounds, I don't think I'm 'relationship material', I don't think I ever should have gotten married, and now I feel trapped."

Gee. That does sound terrible. Thanks for the heads up.
Maybe you should've thought of that before you got married.

Okay, I'm done. Thanks for the spontaneous trigger of some anger I needed to vent.

mingerspice
Feb. 26th, 2005 12:42 pm (UTC)
Confused, but here is some cyber-sympathy!

What concrete event triggered the rant?
et_blackbird
Feb. 26th, 2005 04:41 pm (UTC)
Well said.

Whether it's a friend or a partner, the need to communicate is still there. None of us can see what's on someone else's mind, and none of us can know exactly what someone else needs. Sometimes we get lucky and say the right thing, that's all.

No-one is responsible for someone else's emotions, not even a parent for their child's.

You're stronger than you know.
ewe_2
Mar. 1st, 2005 02:36 pm (UTC)
You are your own person.
I hope everything is ok.

*hugs* monkey.

:-)

D
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